We’ve spent so much of our lives tending to and nurturing others. We’ve been raised to be considerate, to have empathy, put in our fair share and stand up for what’s right.

Sometimes, we forget that WE, ourselves, need to be included on then tending to and nurturing list, but we always seem to put us last.  If we really want to take responsibility for how we feel on a day to day basis and LOVE our life then nurturing needs to start at numero uno.

Why do we tend to put others before us…

Generally, doing for others builds feelings of positive confidence, sometimes these positive acts for others is a great way we feed and nurture our soul.

Because Confidence is the degree at which a person thinks and believes that their actions will result in a positive outcome, and doing for others is almost guaranteed to result in those feel-good vibes and therefore builds our self-confidence.

It was a good idea at the time

Nurturing others is a great way to nurture the soul but it can get out of hand. If you don’t keep a check on it before you know it you’ve over-committed yourself, and all that nurturing starts to turn to resentment, you may start to need or looking for some nurturing on your own but it’s too late, you’re trained those around you that you’re the giver, not the receiver, or all those takers out there have sniffed you out, and are currently sucking you dry.

Before you know it the giving that was how you nurture your soul is now exhausting you and you feel used and fed up.

So how do you have that balance of helping others whilst making sure you care for yourself in the process?  The trick is to make sure whatever you offer someone else you offer to yourself first.  You can have time for everyone else you just need to make sure you’re first on the list.

So if you have to do the grocery shopping, get your nails done and run an errand and someone wants something from you the answer can still be yes, but it’s a “yes I can help, but I have to do xwz first”

Nurturing yourself to the core means putting you first and taking daily care of your core confidence so to get the body, mind, and life you LOVE.

Try before you buy and see if the Never Diet Again is right for you.

3 Daily practices that Nurture you to the Core

Embrace free-will allows you to unmask your emotions and negative beliefs which suppresses your ability to feel confident. Free will is the part of us that thrives through the present moments than simply surviving and therefore tapping into free-will occupies the mind with the present and strengthens the connection. The connection between free-will, the person and the present environment creates awareness within us which builds confidence from the core.

Accepting our flaws sometimes means accepting bad feelings, for instance, voices inside saying that you are not enough because of a certain flaw. Everyone has flaws and the more one tends to deny them, the more they keep persisting thus crushing any ability to be core confident.  Reframing the perceived flaw into something that is uniquely you becomes a cute quirk rather than something to hide, confidence boosting rather than soul destroying.

Use self-compassion– Our self-talk is like a record on constant repeat. 90% of what we said to ourselves yesterday, we said to ourselves today and will say to ourselves tomorrow. We bombard ourselves daily with negative self-affirmations.

Your unconscious mind doesn’t know what’s real and what’s not, it only knows what you tell it.  

If you want to change the record and really see positive change focus on reframing what you say.  To take it up a level, Instead of just using self-affirmation words like saying “I am important” every morning, choose to acknowledge each negative statement that you express,  like for example “I feel worthless’.  Reframing your unique self-talk while using the right compassionate words is more liberating and takes less energy because you understand the source of the problem.

At this point, you can address the feeling of worthlessness from a deeper perspective rather than trying to bury the feeling with a fake feeling of greatness.